Darlene “Dotte” Antelman, a devoted mother, beloved friend, and passionate Los Angeles, California community advocate, passed away peacefully in her sleep on January 10, 2026. She was 88 years old. Born in Golden, Colorado, to Irving and Ida Tenner, Dotte carried with her a deep sense of warmth, resilience, and generosity that shaped every chapter of her life.
Dotte spent most of her life in Los Angeles, where she built a vibrant and meaningful life rooted in service, connection, and joy. She was deeply involved in her community, dedicating her time and energy to causes she believed in. Whether volunteering with the League of Women Voters, supporting the Jewish Federation, or lending her voice to local initiatives, Dotte was always ready to show up and make a difference.
Her faith was a guiding light throughout her life. As a dedicated member of Valley Beth Shalom in Encino, Dotte found strength, purpose, and community. She cherished the traditions and values of her Jewish heritage and passed them on with care and pride.
She is survived by her daughters, Wendy Traiger of Palm Desert and Stacy (Caye) Traiger of Rancho Mirage. Dotte was endlessly proud of her girls. She poured her heart into raising them with love, wisdom, and a fierce sense of independence. Her presence in their lives was a constant source of comfort and strength, and her influence will continue to guide them every day.
To those who knew her, Dotte was unforgettable. She had a sparkle in her eye, a quick wit, and a warmth that made everyone feel at home. She was the kind of person who remembered birthdays, sent handwritten notes, and always made time for a heartfelt conversation. Her home was a place of laughter, good food, and open arms. She had a way of making people feel seen, heard, and loved — and that was her true gift.
Though her passing leaves a deep ache, Dotte’s spirit lives on in the lives she touched. Her legacy is one of kindness, courage, and community. She taught us how to live with purpose, how to give without expecting anything in return, and how to love with our whole hearts. She will be missed more than words can say, but her memory will continue to inspire all who were lucky enough to know her.
